One of the constant themes which threads through my talks is this subject of ”Are you short-selling yourself”?
I am a consummate believer that EVERYONE has the potential to lead the life they want as long as they don’t undersell or undervalue their potentials.
It’s not unusual to hear someone speak of their dream or desires and then to hear them start talking about the reasons why they can’t make them or their doubts or some such. We’ve all heard it; if only I could lose some weight; if only I could stop smoking; if only I could win the lottery; if only…….
This is a bad habit, personally and culturally speaking, and it is what I mean by short-selling oneself.
There is an interesting law at work in this universe. It’s not ethereal, it’s not magic, it’s not something that you have to think about long and ponderously to make it work – it is a law, just like gravity is a law.
What you focus your attention on in your life, what you put your mental energies into, is what you’re going to end up with.
Many great minds before me have said the same thing. Even Albert Einstein said it, and I quote:
“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” – Albert Einstein
If you spend your time worrying, then you will end up with a lot of worry on your hands. If you spend your time doubting yourself, engaging in silent debates with yourself about why you shouldn’t jump to the next star – then that’s what you will have; doubt. It’s a simple but very powerful law.
Look at it for yourself, in your own life. You wanted that car, you got it. You wanted that girl – you got her. Simple. But what about the things you wanted, but never achieved, yet? What self-doubts, worries, concerns, or other mental barriers did you finally compromise with in order to cripple that goal? It has to come from you, even if other people throw up the brick walls in your road, it still comes down to you to make the decision to stop yourself. Otherwise, you climb the wall, go around, or break it down and stay true to your objective.
I would like to suggest another, much more successful approach; believe in yourself. No matter if the entire world says otherwise, no matter if all the conventional schools say that you simply don’t have the education, no matter if every publisher rejects your work as unworthy; if not a single other soul in the world believes in your ability to climb that mountain – believe still in yourself and CLIMB.
True success doesn’t come from without us, but rather, it comes from WITHIN us.
I can tell you with a level of certainty that if you maintain this perspective about your life, you will enjoy the challenge and the trip, in spite of any ups and downs which may come your way. And when you finally do make it to the top of that mountain, you won’t be saying “fate was good to me” or “I was lucky,’ or some other trite statement – you’ll know it was YOU.
In our conventional times, we are accustomed to instant results; the internet, iPhones, instant everything. Success isn’t necessarily instant and more often than not, it requires staying focused and uncompromising in the face of your greatest enemy – self-doubt.
Living and succeeding is not about luck, it is about having a firm resolution about where you want to go and then maintaining a level of self-confidence and faith in oneself which trumps all the doubts, the worries, the fears; not to mention the counter-productive forces which will come your way from others who will doubt YOU, and maybe even resist your efforts at success.
We can call this by many names, such as courage, integrity, persistence, but those are just qualities.
It’s one of the most beautiful things about people and life, that we have it within all of us to endure, to persist and to succeed at anything because of this overriding law that what you focus your attention on will ultimately put your feet on the right road – and if you stay with it, one step at a time, you can’t help but get there eventually.